Alexander
From King's Lynn, United Kingdom
49 y.o. man seeking woman 21-50
- Height: 5'8" / 172 cm
- Weight: 194 lbs / 88 kg
- Body type: About average
- Hair: Dark blonde, Short length
- Eyes: Blue Gray
- Ethnicity: White / Caucasian
- Zodiac sign: Gemini
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Last update: November 12, 2024
Member since: September 14, 2024
Username: XanderBear
Member ID: 1308707
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Active today
Last update: November 12, 2024
Member since: September 14, 2024
Username: XanderBear
Member ID: 1308707
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About Me
Why does my "nickname" refer to a bear? I will be pleased to answer that question!
Thank you to all of the beautiful and amazing women who have messaged me. I am patient and careful but sadly this means I may not be able to respond to every lovely message I receive. I love every message and cherish them, so thank you!
In my professional life, I am a judge in specialist courts. This is all very serious, so when I am not working I try not to be too serious at all! I try to be a modest and kind man. While I am a little bit introverted I am friendly and open. I enjoy meeting new people and experiencing nice things.
One of my values is that everyone is equal. The test of a person is how they treat other people. At a restaurant, do you treat the waitress kindly? I hope so. Anyone who is arrogant to a waitress is not going to be a nice person, in my opinion. What do you think?
Politically, I lean to the ‘left’. I think we should look out for each other as a society. I am a Christian but my faith is quite private and personal. I am not a religious person. Rather, I am a man of faith.
I am divorced (twice) and have two teenaged children my heir is nearly 19 and my spare is nearly 16) from my first marriage. They live with their mother but I look after them every other weekend. I am lucky that they are both wonderful, kind young men!
It is important to me that in my relationships I am ‘kinky’. I enjoy BDSM and am a ‘top’ or ‘dom’. Is this new to you? It is like '50 Shades of Grey' but real and not silly like the book or the film! This is an important aspect of my psyche. Consent, respect and communication are vital!
I also want to be open and honest that due to a serious illness when I was a child, I have an ileostomy. This does not hinder my life but it is something that some people might not like? It does not make any difference to me and I hope it makes no difference to you, as well!
Finally (and I really hate to say this) I have experienced attempts to scam me out of money from this website. I spent many, many years prosecuting these sort of things in court, so I have a fairly sharp eye for this. If you engage with me, please forgive me if I gently check that you are genuine!
About My Match
I prefer a strong, independent woman. A woman who has her own mind and opinions. I don’t mind what career my mate has, she could be a nurse or an engineer, a waitress or a scientist. She will be caring and funny. Beautiful (of course!) and ‘kinky’, like me - hopefully you enjoy or are curious about BDSM (like 50 Shades of Grey... but real and properly consensual) but this is not vital to me. Love is most important of all!
About Myself
- English (native), Spanish (basic)
- Master's Degree
- Law/Legal/Judiciary
- Christian
- Divorced
- Don't live with me
- Not sure
- Non-Smoker
- On occasion
Personality and Interests
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Calm, Compulsive, Easygoing/Flexible/Open-Minded, Friendly/Kind, Intellectual/Smart, Optimistic, Persistent, Romantic, Self Confident, Sensitive/Nurturing/Loving, Serious/Responsible, Sophisticated/Worldly
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Hiking/Walking, Jogging/Running, Weightlifting
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Coffee and conversation, Cooking, Dining out, Hobbies and crafts, Meetings/Friends, Music and concerts, Playing sports, Travel/Sightseeing
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Barbecue, Cajun/Southern, Chinese/Dim Sum, Eastern-European, French, Greek, Indian, Italian, Mediterranean, Thai
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Classical, Hard Rock & Metal
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Fiction, Non-Fiction